The Problem with Performance-Based Relationships

Student Story: Emily

Many teens believe that their value stems from their accomplishments—they must perform to be loved and meet standards to be worthy. So how can parents foster an environment of unconditional love for their family? This weekend on Parenting Today’s Teens, Mark Gregston suggests ways that moms and dads can separate performance from relationship.

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Performance-Driven Teens


In our culture, there is a near constant push for achievement.  We’re encouraged to be beautiful, athletic and successful in order to gain value.  The problem comes when that attitude seeps into the way we relate to our teens.  On this edition of Parenting Today’s Teens, Mark Gregston and special guest, Sean Meade provide some intentional ways moms and dads can communicate their unconditional love to their teen.  Is your kid feeling the pressure to perform?  Listen to Parenting Today’s Teens!

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Freedom to Make Mistakes


When a toddler first learns to walk, parents don’t always hold their child’s hand.  We give them freedom to stumble and fall down sometimes!  On this edition of Parenting Today’s Teens, Mark Gregston explains how allowing your teen room to tumble or make mistakes is the best way to teach independence.  Learn how to encourage a sense of responsibility in your teen, today with Mark Gregston.